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Wednesday, July 18, 2012

This Soldier Served Our Country. Now He Needs Your Support

 By Eric Ross, PhD, Acting President of NCFM Greater NY Chapter, Investigative Reporter, National Writers’ Syndicate.

In 2011 Sgt. Casey Gray was called to Active Duty in support of Operation Enduring Freedom. Unfortunately, he was already in the midst of a “battle” − his child custody case in Oakland County, Pontiac, Michigan. In February 2011, the Hon. Elizabeth Pezzetti, presiding over his case, said in court that she would never give custody to the father because he was a soldier in the US Army.

While deployed, Sergeant Gray was severly injured and evacuated to Brooke Army Medical Center (BAMC) in San Antonio, Texas. He suffered a traumatic brain injury, 6 skull fractures, fractured numerous, bilateral bony hamstring avulsions and many other injuries. Mrs. Zehel, the mother of his two daughters, was flown to BAMC with the children, so the kids could visit with their father. While in the Army Medical Center, Mrs Zehel assaulted the severely injured soldier; she was asked to leave the facility and was transported back to Michigan.
Judge Elizabeth Pezzetti
Subsequently, Judge Elizabeth Pezzetti was presented with evidence of the assault, a suicide attempt by Mrs. Zehel, and her use of anti-depressant  medication. Sergeant Gray begged the court, for his children’s sake, to have custody of them, to provide medical and psychological assistance to Mrs. Zehel.

Sergeant Gray is a combat veteran who has fought to protect the US since 1999.  Not only did Family Court Judge Pezzetti violated his due process rights, she is punishing a good father for fighting to be with his daughters. Judge Pezetti rejected the expert testimony by the Army’s psychologists – through  abuse of her discretion and in violation of the Constitutional rights of children and parents, the loving father is not even afforded the right to visit his daughters.

Furthermore, Judge Pezzetti’s Child Support order virtually condemns Sgt. Gray to slow death by starvation: She ordered nearly $1600 a month in Child support for his two daughters, in addition to him already paying  $800 a month for his six year old son. Coming out of his meager $2800 paycheck, this leaves him $400/month to support himself, while paying $2400. “Honorable” Pezzetti also authorized a debt judgment against him of over $9,000 in back child support.

This father served our country. Show Your Support for the Soldier.  Sign his Petition: 



NCFM supports  H. R. 4201 Servicemembers Civil Relief Act to provide for the protection of child custody arrangements for parents who are members of the Armed Forces. The bill is sponsored by Congressman Michael Turner (R-Ohio).

NCFM supports the Parental Rights Amendment to the United States Constitution, which will allow parents to direct the upbringing of their children, protected from federal interference and the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child. The Parental Rights Amendment was first proposed during the 110th Congress as House Joint Resolution 97 in July 2008, but no action was taken. In the current 112th Congress (2011-2012) the Parental Rights Amendment was proposed by Rep. John Flemming  (R-LA) on January 3, 2011, as H.J. Res. 3. In late may 2012 it had 17 cosponsors. It was assigned to the Constitution subcommittee of the House Judiciary Committee. Rep. Trent Franks, chairman of the subcommittee, was a proponent of this Amendment in the last Congress.

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  1. I am disgusted to know this judge could do this to this good man.

  2. Contact Michigan State Sentor Rick Jones, and Rep Kenneth Horn.

    Both have pushed and passed significant legislation protecting the rights of soldiers serving our countries, specifically as it relates to dealings with the Family courts.

    Robert Kerr
    Dads & Moms PAC

  3. Remember the Abbie Dorn case of last year and how much publicity was raised over the father denying her access to the children? If I remember right she also had a brain injury.

  4. Jeremy Swanson FRA/MRAJuly 21, 2012 at 9:12 AM

    I am past becoming "disgusted" because this is all there is and all there is to expect from Family law Courts in the West. Nothing changes. Here is where men and fathers thinking is gradually moving:

    “....things won't change until men, divided and conquered by their fear, storm the streets”
    Robin L. Barton
    The Crime Report
    August 22, 2011

  5. George,

    Abbie Dorn case is different. She was disabled with some brain damage during birth. Apparently, mommy's brain damage is no obstacle for having custody.

    This soldier has recovered from his wounds, including head trauma, and is on active duty in TX. He was given excellent reports by attending psychiatrists.

    His "disability"? -- Being a man, being a soldier.

    Why are these policies so anti-male? In large measure, to create the maximum numbers of state wards out of children, dependent on the state's apparatchiks for handouts. This has been a long-term policy of the Democrat party in order to create the maximum number of Democrat voters.

    The family destruction is an important function of the state, always seeking to brainwash children through its public schools into being the state's obedient slaves, and the willing cannon fodder when the state needs it.

    There are other reasons, no less mundane. Men have been traditionally the breadwinners, so the legal sharks attack men for the fresh, warm blood. That's where the money is.

  6. Hmmmm... This one doesn't add up. Has anyone actually looked at court records?

    1. "This one" is like a majority of other cases. One soldier wrote to me that while he was deployed in Afghanistan, his Ex -- from whom he has been divorced for years -- got pregnant and filed for upward modification of child support. Despite his absence, the judge said on the record that the soldier had his basic needs taken care of by the state and needed no money. She near doubled his CS, and the NY CS enforcement agencies cleaned up his bank account. I say it is stupid to risk your life and limb for the safety of the scum of the earth like this judge. Do not serve. It is more honorable to seek other employment.

  7. I am getting very disgusted with states who have laws on the books that tell us that a father had to fight for any right to be a real father to their children. It is especially disgusting to me that a soldier who sacrifices so much for their country has to prove that he is worthy of being in a child's life!

  8. So....basically good ol' Liz Pezzetti is pretty much a dumb cunt. Got it.

  9. I hate the fact I live in the same county, And they are pricks to men in regards to their children.

  10. This guy is a complete fraud....not only did he abuse his children's mother, but abused several other women. On top of that, he is committing fraud with the VA for his benefits by claiming injuries that NEVER happened. Also, he has been conning countless honest people using this and other false stories to get money from GoFundMe to finance his $125k vehicles, and vacations to Hawaii. Do the research and you will see I'm right. This guy is a scumbag....and btw, I do not know the woman, or the judge. I'm just a concerned and disgusted vet watching this guy get away with these crimes.